Reflections

Weekly reflections from Wayfinder's Weekly - essays on navigating threshold seasons, transitions, and the messy middle between endings and beginnings.

Want longer form writing from me? Check out my two books: In Your End Is Your Beginning: A Memoir & Spiritual Wayfinding Manual and Hill Country Strong: Reflections for Healing Through the Texas Flood

Resurrection is happening now
Elaine Murray Elaine Murray

Resurrection is happening now

Transformation doesn't wait for you to be ready. It happens in the mess, in the goo, in the cold spring rain when you're still becoming.

I mean...have you ever watched a birth?  It's messy y'all. 

Rebirth isn't something that happened once in ancient history that we're still waiting to happen again. Rebirth is not a moment you commemorate once a year. It is a direction you walk in.

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Sounding Like Yourself
Elaine Murray Elaine Murray

Sounding Like Yourself

This week, something surfaced for me. A vision I've been carrying and slowly finding words for. I finally said it out loud and put words to page. It surprised me with how whole it sounded when it landed.

I'm calling it the common wealth of compassionate soul care.

Two words, not one. Common wealth is a kind that belongs to all of us, that can't be quantified by a salary or a price tag. A movement, not a program. A way of showing up to your ordinary life — your job, your family, and all the hard and beautiful demands of being human — with a shared lens that changes how you see everything you're already doing.

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The Goo Season
Elaine Murray Elaine Murray

The Goo Season

Goo season is not a place to set up camp. It is not the truth about who you are, but it tells the truth about what's being shed. The formlessness is purposeful. The imaginal cells are already present, already carrying the blueprint of what comes next. They just can't be seen yet from inside the dissolution.

You need people who can hold the chrysalis.

Not to rush you out of it. Not to explain it away. Not to remind you of all the reasons you should be further along by now. You need people who can sit with you in the goo and say: I know. I see you. This is not the end of the story.

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When Everything Feels Like Chaos 🌀
Elaine Murray Elaine Murray

When Everything Feels Like Chaos 🌀

External chaos + internal chaos = exhausting.

Here's what I keep returning to when everything feels like too much:

Chaos isn't the problem. Chaos is the PROCESS.

Every creation story I've ever read starts the same way: formless void, watery chaos, darkness.

And then: breath. Movement. Light. Order emerging from disorder.

Chaos precedes new order.

The mess is part of the making.

Your life falling apart might not be collapse. It might be reconstruction.

The question isn't "How do I stop the chaos?"

The question is: "What wants to emerge from this?"

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Your Nervous System Has a Favorite
Elaine Murray Elaine Murray

Your Nervous System Has a Favorite

Here's something worth sitting with: your nervous system has a favorite. Not a substance, necessarily — but a pattern. A go-to. Something it reaches for, almost before you know you're reaching.

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When “I Don’t Know” Isn’t Working
Elaine Murray Elaine Murray

When “I Don’t Know” Isn’t Working

Someone asks "How are you doing?" or "What's next for you?" and your whole body tightens because you're so tired of those three words.

I don't know.
I don't know.
I don't know.

You've been patient. You've been sitting with it. You've been trusting that answers come in their own time.

And now you're tired. Tired of waiting. Tired of the fog. Tired of yourself for still being here.

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Permission to Be Unmoored
Elaine Murray Elaine Murray

Permission to Be Unmoored

Being unmoored doesn't mean you are lost. It means you are in transition. Transitions always feel uncertain before they feel clear. 

Here's your permission slip for the week: 

You don't have to have it all figured out to keep moving. 

You don't have to perform certainty you don't feel. 

You're allowed to be building something real while still feeling like you're finding your way. 

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The⚕️Oath: Do No Harm
Elaine Murray Elaine Murray

The⚕️Oath: Do No Harm

In medicine, there’s a simple oath that precedes all the complexity: Do no harm.
It doesn’t mean “do nothing.”
It doesn’t mean “preserve every system.”

It means that even in moments of urgency and intervention, harm is not treated as acceptable collateral damage.

I wonder what it would mean to treat do no harm as a wayfinding principle for our communities right now; not a rule or a purity test, but a compass. Something we return to when visibility is low and emotions are running hot.

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Looking at this moment with elder eyes ⭐
Elaine Murray Elaine Murray

Looking at this moment with elder eyes ⭐

When we look back at old photographs, we rarely linger on what embarrassed us at the time. We don’t fixate on the awkwardness of our overbite, the way our jeans pinched us weird,  or the missteps. Instead, we see past the imperfections and recognize the heart that was present all along.

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Connected more than Directed: Spiritual Wayfinding versus Spiritual Direction
Elaine Murray Elaine Murray

Connected more than Directed: Spiritual Wayfinding versus Spiritual Direction

Many have asked, “What is Spiritual Wayfinding?” trying to classify it as therapy, life coaching, spiritual direction, pastoral care, or some combination of all of the above. I founded spiritual wayfinding as I was making my own way spiritually through life-altering events. While talk therapy was helpful, and spiritual direction as well, I found what I truly craved was a companion to hold the map for me while I figured out my own way to honor what God was calling me to within and beyond the reality in which I found myself.

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✨ Navigating Life’s WTFH Moments: Embracing New Beginnings
Elaine Murray Elaine Murray

✨ Navigating Life’s WTFH Moments: Embracing New Beginnings

Sometimes change arrives at us all at once, in an overwhelming way and we’re forced to navigate uncharted territory, which can feel utterly isolating when everyone around us is not focused on or not overwhelmed like you are. We might ask ourselves, “Where to from here?” or in a less polished moment, “What the f%#*ing hell?!” 


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