When “I Don’t Know” Isn’t Working

There's a particular kind of exhaustion that comes from saying "I don't know" too many times.

Someone asks "How are you doing?" or "What's next for you?" and your whole body tightens because you're so tired of those three words.

I don't know.
I don't know.
I don't know.

You've been patient. You've been sitting with it. You've been trusting that answers come in their own time.

And now you're tired. Tired of waiting. Tired of the fog. Tired of yourself for still being here.

Here's what I've learned from people who've crossed this threshold:

That urgency—that bone-deep tiredness of not knowing—isn't a sign you're doing it wrong.

It's often the signal that you're ready to move.

The people I work with who've found their way through? They didn't wait until they had a nice and tidy answer. They moved when they got tired of waiting. They said, "I don't have all the answers, but I'm done being stuck here."

And that decision to move toward something even without certainty—that's when things started shifting.

Not because they forced it. Because they stopped resisting the fact that it was time.

Here's what I know to be true:

You don't have to see the whole path to take the next step.

You don't have to know exactly where you're going to start moving in a direction.

And being tired of "I don't know" isn't impatience. It's readiness.

A practice for this week:

When someone asks "How are you?" or "What's next?" try saying:

"I'm figuring it out" or "I'm taking the next step." My favorite? A little shrug and "You know how it is...rockin' and rollin' and what not" a la Danny Zuko...

Not because you have it all mapped out. Because you're done waiting for perfect clarity before you start moving.

The path appears as you walk it. Not before.

If this resonates, hit reply and tell me: what small step are you ready to take, even without knowing where it leads?

I read every response.
Elaine

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