✨ Navigating Life’s WTFH Moments: Embracing New Beginnings

In raising young children, we parents are told to give them choices, but only choices of behaviors we want them to take. You don’t ask your four year old, “Do you want to take a bath?” but you do offer them, “Do you want to walk to the bathtub, or do you want me to carry you there?” 

In grown up life, change is rarely a choice we get to make for ourselves. Circumstances happen to us - aging, changes in relationships, losses of freedom, jobs, control. The Greek philosopher Heraclitus proclaimed, “The only constant in life is change.”

Sometimes change arrives at us all at once, in an overwhelming way and we’re forced to navigate uncharted territory, which can feel utterly isolating when everyone around us is not focused on or not overwhelmed like you are. We might ask ourselves, “Where to from here?” or in a less polished moment, “What the f%#*ing hell?!” 

The most important message for you in these WTFH moments is this: you are not alone. 

You are not the first person to have made this transition. You are not the last. Although your journey and situation are unique, you have the gift of community to lean on. It may be hard to see the people who will get you through it, but they exist.

The teacher in Ecclesiastes put it like this:

“It’s better to have a partner than go it alone.

Share the work, share the wealth.

And if one falls down, the other helps,

But if there’s no one to help, tough!” (4:9-10, The Message)

That’s why I put together a package of group WTFH coaching. 

Because if you have to go through it, it’s better to do it with others. 

In this six week group coaching experience, you’ll be cared for in community with myself and 6-8 others.  In six, 90 minute videoconferencing sessions, you’ll grow through shared updates  and collective wisdom, and learn the juicy tactics for getting through transition moments to embrace what new life is on the other side of them. 

Each session’s structure will look like this: Brief check in and opening ritual for the first 20 minutes, then 45 minutes of deep diving on a relevant spiritual wayfinding topic, then 20 minutes of exploring this topic together in a group discussion and 5 minute sending ritual. 

Some topics covered in WTFH coaching: Elaine’s signature spiritual wayfinding process that starts with accessing joy in hard times, names our losses along the way, and looks to the horizon for what new life looks like and how to embrace it. 

You don’t have to navigate this hard thing alone. Community is a powerful place to explore, be honest and vulnerable, uncover hidden baggage and burdens you didn’t even realize were holding you back. Between our time together, we’ll share a private text community where gentle updates and thoughts can flow, keeping us close along the way.

“When you are finished changing, you are finished”

— Benjamin Franklin

You will be in a better place than you started after completing this six week WTFH experience. You will recover a sense of meaning, purpose, and joy even in a transformative season of your life. You will be spiritually stronger and hardier for facing life’s ups and downs.  

If you’re ready to join the next WTFH spiritual wayfinding group experience, register here. I can’t wait to journey with you through to what new life awaits you on the other side of this hard thing.

What Is Spiritual Wayfinding?

I stood in my gravel driveway, car keys in one hand, phone in the other, letting the sun beat down on my sandals, while I looked up at the door I’d just been kicked out of and wondered, “Ok. What now?” Whether you’ve lost a job, ended a relationship, or are awakening to the reality that what has worked for you in the past to access your meaning, your purpose, your joy isn’t working anymore, you know what it is to lose your way.

Through my experience navigating divorce, vocational re-invention, and faith in my thirties, I made my way by connecting deeply with my values, learning to listen to the still, small voice within, and trust the incrementality of change, through a process I call “spiritual wayfinding.”

Spiritual wayfinding is a practice of seeking divine guidance to navigate life's challenges.

It’s like geocaching, but for your soul. You’ll find treasures put there by life experiences, people you didn’t even know were meaningful teachers to you, and your own unique gifts and abilities.

Core Practices of Spiritual Wayfinding

The core practices of Spiritual Wayfinding include, but are not limited to:

Some form of verbal expression: voice notes, journaling, anything that gets what is inside your head and your heart out on the page or in a place where you can hear and engage with it.

Prayer/Meditation/Silence: in addition to getting the thoughts and inklings out, allowing yourself silence and trance-like space to truly sense what’s going on internally is a necessary piece of finding your way. Otherwise you will flail about and miss the opportunity to align with what is true and real and joyful for you.

Engaging with a Sacred Text: human beings have been navigating life’s challenges and seeking the truth for eons. Many of them wrote down their process! We can learn from them. Whether it’s the Bible, the Baghavad Gita, the Tarot, or some other sacred form of connection with human searches for divine truth, a regular practice of reading and letting those stories settle in our bones is critical to finding our own way.

Why Spiritual Wayfinding?

Life isn’t going to magically be easier and you won’t immediately know a five year plan or what you were put on this earth for, but you will experience clarity and direction, a sense that every step you take is aligned with who you are and what’s important to you.

You’ll experience emotional healing and resilience, learning to forgive yourself for the ways you have abandoned your values in the past and commit to honoring yourself in the present.

Most critically, spiritual wayfinding deepens your spiritual connection, opening a habitual way for you to access what is most holy, true, real, and joyful about your human existence. Remember, we are not just bodies, but we are souls in skinsuits. When was the last time you tended your soul?

Let’s make your way, spiritually, through to your next right thing. Book a FREE 20-minute consult to share where you are in your soul-tending, what values you want to live more authentically, and explore a solution that equips you to make your way faithfully.